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5 Tips For Surviving An Unfair Boss

Every job has stress, but the workplace environment can seem almost unbearable when working for an over-demanding or unfair boss. You don’t have to like your boss, but you do need to be able to co-exist and co-operate with him for you to be productive and successful at your job.
 

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Other than a change taking place, as I discussed in the article ‘Unhappy at Work? A Change is Coming,’ there is no perfect solution for dealing with a difficult boss, but here are five suggestions that might make your situation a little less painful.

#1) Think of your boss as a parent and you as his teenage child.

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This sounds silly at first, but the relationship between you and your boss is very similar to that between a parent and child. Teenagers often have problems with authority and experience disagreements with their parents. Meanwhile, parents often create rules the child believes to be unfair. If the situation gets bad enough, as soon as the child is old enough he finds a way to move out and make it on his own. Parents aren’t perfect and neither are bosses - both will make mistakes.

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#2) Do the absolute best job you can.

Sometimes the child misbehaves.

J. Paul Getty once said, “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.”

Make sure you are the type of employee you would want working for you if you were the boss. I know this goes against the notion of revenge and tucking it to an unfair boss whenever possible, but by doing the best job possible you give the unfair boss less ammunition he can use to make your life miserable. He also might think twice about upsetting one of his better employees when there are plenty of other, easier targets he can take aim at.

Don’t draw attention to yourself. Unless you are the only one your boss has it in for, there should be plenty of others to draw his wrath away from you. Let someone else wear the target on their back.

#3) Learn all that you can from an unfair boss.

We can learn something from everyone we come into contact with. While from a good boss we can learn good management techniques, it is also true that from a poor boss we can learn how not to act. Don’t just suffer, gain something from the situation that will benefit you in the future. Watch how your boss handles different situations and make a mental note of which techniques worked and which failed.

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#4) Forget about yesterday.

Yesterday is history, it’s over with. Try not to let your issues from yesterday spoil today. Instead, start each day with a new, positive outlook, telling yourself that today is going to be better.

Sometimes we get into a rut, expect the worse and act accordingly - we subconsciously force a person (in this case, our boss) to act the way we expect him to act. Make sure you are not unintentionally adding fuel to the fire. Starting each day with a fresh slate is the best way to get past previous differences. Holding onto a grudge only hurts yourself.

#5) Take responsibility.

Don’t expect someone else to end your suffering.

Complaining is easy, but it accomplishes very little. Worrying about a problem won’t make it go away while losing sleep and dwelling on an issue only makes it seem worse. You will never be happy if you are focusing on worry. If you are truly in a situation that is causing you pain, you need to begin taking steps to improve the situation.

The Roman Philosopher Sallust said, “Every man is the architect of his own fortune.”

Have you actually looked for another job? Have you tried to improve your skills through in-house training, adult learning centers, books or correspondence courses? Even the smallest step in the right direction is progress. An obstinate boss won’t change his ways, but you can improve your own skills. Why not let your difficult boss be the motivation you use to better yourself?


About the Author:

Gary Mosher is co-author of the award-winning ‘Buddha in the Boardroom’, the book that shows you how to excel in today’s chaotic and stressful workplace environment, available from Bodhi Tree Publishing, LLC at
http://www.bodhitreepublishing.com

 

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I agree with lots of the comments stated here.
My boss has shown me from day one she has a issue with me.  I continue to do my best and try to use the visual of the organization I work for as motivation and not her as a person.  She is triggering all sort of insecurities from my childhood and I keep taking the high road.  I hope that with time things will work out

There are many times in a person's life that they come across an idiot but we can always learn from an idiot as well.  Grass is always greener on the other side.

I have a similar situation. It does help for me to pray that she will be blessed, and she was, and that made my life easier.  She is at the top of my prayer list, which was hard to do at first, but it does pay off.

Being able to bless a boss or a superior who has treated you unfairly is a difficult yet honourable thing to do. I agree with this gesture however, because the situation is out of your hands. She has the power here. I am in a similar situation right now and am realizing that sometimes we can do nothing but learn from these types of events. Although I am devastated and have even been lied to by my superior on several occasions, the one lesson I can take away from this is to never treat others the way I am being treated. I can at least be proud that I am a decent human being with respect and kindness towards others always.

I have been working with a bullying perfectionist for the past two years. In tears I went to our human resource department. They did nothing about the bully but tried to gave me tips on how to handle one. The tips were for people who are willing to communicate. My boss was not. What I discovered was, a perfectionist bully thinks people in their environment are mere objects to manipulate for their need for control. When you do not meet their unexpressed needs they think they get to punish you. The bodies of previous assistants are piled high outsider her door. I contacted a labor lawyer about my situation. He recommended I find another job. I have been looking however with our economy the way it is finding one has been taking awhile. What I have learned is not to take what she says personally. I envision a teflon suit of armour around me so that whatever negativity goes back to her. Most of all I bless her. Holding in this way has made me stronger and less fearful. In our last meeting she said she could not trust me to do my job. I simply replied she has not trusted me ever and until she does the work I do probably will not get any better. If she expects my work to improve then I expect to be treated with trust and respect.

Please also add advise about the situation when the boss is unfair to a person because he is unduly favouring another employee. You can't protest loudly as he can ruin your career.


 

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