Teenagers have a very different view on life to adults.
Adults seem to want to stop you having fun. They are very quick
to tell you that you can’t do this or you can’t do that and that
you can’t be what you dream to be when you grow up and leave
Adults are partly right. They know that there is
a cost to living. They know that you have to find money to pay
for food, clothing and accommodation. And they ‘think’ they know
that the chances of you becoming famous, for example, are slim.
What do you want to do when you are older? Many teenagers tell
me that they want to be an actress, a doctor, a lawyer, a
motocross champion, a professional football player, a pop star,
a computer programmer, a pilot, a soldier, a racing driver or an
astronomer. Someone even told me they wanted to become a
Not many people tell me that they want to work
in a hotel, work in an office, pick fruit or vegetables, cook
food, repair cars, maintain roads or perform one of the hundreds
of jobs that the majority of people do each and every day to
keep a roof over their heads.
So what happened to all of
those ‘everyday’ people, did they have the same dreams as you?
Yes, most people dream of great things when they are a teenager
but very few go on to achieve them. What can you learn from them
that will stop the same thing happening to you?
thing that you need to appreciate is that success does NOT just
happen to you. There is a lot of hard work and effort that goes
in to every success story. You will not just stumble across
success, or become a pop star, simply because you want to be
Speak to any successful person and they will all
tell you the same thing – you need to have goals. You need to
know exactly what you want, not just some vague notion about the
‘lifestyle’ that accompanies this dream. You need a main goal
and also lots of smaller goals – things that you have to achieve
on the way to achieving the big one.
You need to discover
what skills or knowledge that you need to be able to do the
thing that you want to do. You need to find out if there is a
qualification that you need to have to gain you entry into that
If you want to be a singer it takes more than
the ability to sing. You are competing against thousands of
other singers, many of which have been singing from an early age
and take lessons with professional voice coaches several times
per week. They practice seven nights per week and already
perform in front of small audiences and enter talent contests as
often as they can. Are you doing this?
If you want to be
a motocross champion it takes more than the ability to ride a
bike. You are competing against thousands of other amateurs like
yourself who have been riding motocross bikes from the age of
four and have been competing almost every weekend for years.
They really know how to ride a bike. They have put in the time
to develop and hone their skills and their parents are fully
behind them buying them the best equipment and travelling to new
meetings to put them up against faster riders. These people are
very fast. Have you put the same time in at the same level?
I am not trying to put you off. I want you to wake up to the
fact that if you are not already practicing and competing at the
peak level of your dream activity then you need to start damn
quick or accept that someone else is going to live your dream
and not you.
What you need to do to become the person in
your dream is to work out the difference between your life now
and what it is you need to be the person in your dreams.
You need to work out what skills you need and how you are going
to achieve them. You need to work out what knowledge you need
and where you are going to get it. You need to work out where
you are going to find the time to do this and how it is going to
be paid for. You need to ask yourself if you are prepared to put
in the hard work and long hours that are required to get you to
where you want to be.
Many of the best actors and
actresses in the country went to a highly competitive stage
school to learn their craft. Students of these schools have to
work long hours and extremely hard just to survive, never mind
stand out as a future star. But stage school doesn’t even begin
there. Entry to the best academies is competitive and you need
to prove to them that you have ‘what it takes’ just to get in.
You need to have been performing in plays and stage shows prior
to applying. You need to show that you have a track record of
excellence in acting. Can you prove this?
On your way to
your dream position you need to LEARN all of the things that
will be necessary when you are in that position.
to work backwards from your dream and calculate all the steps
required to get to where you want to be. A lawyer, for example,
needs a law degree. Depending where you intend to study places
can be very competitive so you need to have good school or
college grades prior to getting in to university. Don’t think
that you can just turn on your school work in the last couple of
years prior to university – you need to work hard at school in
all your subjects, in all your year groups, to achieve the
So, if you still want to live your dream
and you are prepared to put in all the hard work and effort to
get you to where you want to be then I wish you good luck.
But consider one thing, if you are not going to put in all of
this hard work or you mistakenly still think that it is still
just going to happen to you, what are you going to end up doing
to provide you with the money you need to live? Probably the
same thing as most people in their routine jobs.
enjoy learning. Learn the things that you are interested in.
Find out how to improve your learning to make it more useful to
you. Become an expert in whatever field you want to excel in.
Set yourself some goals and start today.
Oh yes, and the
person that told me that they wanted to become a magician has
now been making a good living that way for over 10 years. He has
performed on more than one occasion to Prince Charles, the
future King of England. He has also performed for a host of
other celebrities and even topped the bill on New Year’s Eve at
the ‘6 star’ BURJ AL ARAB hotel in Dubai.
Live the dream.
© 2005 Max Wiseman
About the Author:
Max is a learning expert and believes that learning is the key
to success in life. Visit his website for more inspirational and
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