Life without good friends is like a body without soul - it
loses its meaning and charm. Friends share our joys and sorrows.
We can express feelings of our heart to a good friend. A good
friend is our best guide in crisis. One of the greatest
philosophers of the world Emerson called good friend a master
piece of Nature.
Children, adults, politicians, writers, journalists, clerks,
labourers or businessmen all need friends to make career and
enjoy life. But having a circle of valuable friends is not an
easy task. Making friends or influencing people, in fact, is an
art and like other arts it can be learnt.
1. HOW TO
START A CONVERSATION
Many persons want to talk to others
but it is very difficult for them to start a conversation. They
get somewhat nervous and sentences don't come up in their minds.
Consequently they are unable to strike friendship with others.
Such persons should keep some opening sentences in mind. After
some time it becomes easy for them to start a talk and establish
a bond of friendly relations. Several easy openings may be: i)
What is the time please?; ii) Excuse me, do you have a pen
please?; iii) Could you tell me which bus leads to....?; iv)
Would you please guide me about the best eating place here? v)
Is India going to win this match? etc.
2. POWER OF
ADMIRATION
Everybody loves praise and recognition for his
talent and work. Even the kings loved to surround themselves
with flatterers. Poet wrote songs admiring their kingdom and
good qualities. Today’s politicians also like the company of
those people who can boost their ego by praising them to skies.
Big figures may enjoy flattery but a common person needs genuine
praise.
Every human being has a unique quality and he or
she wants to be appreciated for it. Unfortunately people are so
busy in their own affairs that they hardly have any time to
understand or admire these qualities. In case you are wise
enough to spare some time and admire persons genuinely you will
be rewarded with a positive response from the person whom you
admire. Most of the people understand the difference between
real and fake admiration. So be genuine in appreciation.
3. HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO TELL
If you want to earn the
goodwill of God distribute happiness not sorrows. People in
today’s industrialised world are already full of sorrows and
tension. They need some fun. So whenever a person approaches
them with a sullen face he is generally ignored. Nobody is
interested in wasting time on him. People avoid a person who
always has something bad to tell. If you want to be welcomed by
the people paste a label of good news on your forehead. It means
you must have something good to say to people.
4. LISTEN
CAREFULLY
Chatterboxes - the persons who talk too much -
always bore others. They only want to speak and don’t want to
listen to anybody. They are not liked. Good listeners are
welcomed everywhere. A human being has a tendency to express and
find audience for him. So if you have any desire to make friends
learn to keep patience, and listen carefully. You won’t have any
dearth of good friends.
5. UNDERSTAND THE FEELINGS
Hurt the feeling of anybody and you sow the seed of enmity. So
be careful with your words and choose them carefully while
talking to others. Everybody has something to say that is close
to heart and he/she is hungry to find someone to whom it can be
confided. If you want to make friends respect the feelings of
other people. Understand them with total sincerity . Share their
feeling of joy and sorrow. This habit will open for you the door
of friendships.
6. BE GENUINELY INTERESTED
Develop genuine interest in people. If you are just interested
in selfish motives and have no regard for the desires and
hobbies of others then forget you will ever be able to make
friends. Talk about their favourite TV/movie star or player.
Discuss about the game they like, the hobby they enjoy or the
political party they favour. If a person thinks that he is
valued he feels happy and enthusiastic.
7. FIND COMMON
INTERESTS
Birds of the same feather fly together. Common
interests create a bond between two persons. Find out some
common interests between you and the person whom you want to
befriend. To have knowledge about common interests sometimes you
have to talk to a person on various topics. You will soon have
an idea regarding areas of similar tastes and a way to strike
friendship.
8. HELP TO ACHIEVE GOALS
Goals of a
person are most dear to his heart. A person has to struggle very
hard in life to achieve his goals. He always wants to surround
himself with persons who can help or guide him to achieve the
goals. So if you know about the aims and goals of a person and
find a way to help him you can win his friendship easily. And be
sure, it is mostly a very intimate and durable friendship.
Moreover helping someone achieve his or her goals is a sacred
task.
9. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
Some people are
slave of their emotions. It is very difficult for them
especially to control angry outbursts. We can't make good
friends or maintain them for long if we are one of those slaves.
Though it is not easy to have a reign over our emotions yet we
can learn to control them if we take a pledge today. Regular
emotional outburst erode the harmony of friendship. We can’t
maintain any good relationship for long if we constantly hurt
each other. Only those persons have a large circle of friends
who know how to control their emotions.
10. VALUE OF SMALL GIFTS
The best method of excellent
communication is a small gift. Whenever a person receives a
gift, given to him or her with a smiling face and a warm heart,
it always leaves a lasting impression. Who doesn't like to
receive gifts? A gift is a sure-fire method to melt the blocks
of communication. It makes a person receptive. On important
occasion send a greeting card, SMS or just give call. Gift and
greetings are the oldest and the sweetest cord of social
relationships.
About the Author:
Anandrahi Trained thousands of persons to get great jobs,
improve personality and achieve goals in business. Best-selling
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