Let us take a peak at the basics of developing rapport with
others.
In a nutshell, what it takes is to ask
questions, have a positive, open attitude, encourage an open
exchange of communications (both verbal and unspoken), listen to
verbal and unspoken communications and share positive feedback.
Here are important details on each step:
1. Ask
Questions
Building report is similar to interviewing
someone for a job opening or it can be like a reporter seeking
information for an article.
Relax and get to know the
other person with a goal of finding common ground or things of
interest. You can begin by simply commenting on the other
persons choice of attire, if in person, or about their computer,
if online, and following up with related questions.
For
example, in person, you could compliment the other person on
their color choice and or maybe a pin, ring or other piece of
jewelry and ask where it came from.
In online
communications, you could compliment the other persons font,
smile faces or whatever they use, mention that the communication
style seems relaxed and ask if he or she writes a lot.
Then basically follow up, steering clear of topics that could
entice or cause arguing, while gradually leading the person to
common ground youd like to discuss.
2. Attitude
Have a positive attitude and leave social labels at home (or in
a drawer, if youre at home). Many people can tell instantly if
you have a negative attitude or if you feel superior. So treat
other people as you would like to be treated. And give each
person a chance.
3. Open Exchange
Do encourage
others to share with you. Some people are shy, scared or
inexperienced in communicating and welcome an opportunity to
share. So both with body language and verbal communication
invite an exchange. Face the other person with your arms open,
eyes looking into theirs gently (not glaring or staring), and
encourage a conversation with a warm smile.
4. Listen
Be an active listener. Dont focus your thoughts on what YOU will
say next. Listen to what the other person is saying and take
your clues from there, while also noting the body language.
For example, if the other person folds his arms and sounds
upset, you may need to change the subject or let him have some
space and distance; maybe even try approaching him later on and
excusing yourself to go make a phone call (of head to the buffet
table or somewhere to escape).
On the other hand, if the
other person is leaning towards you, following your every word
and communicating with your as if you were old friends, BINGO.
Youve built rapport!
5. Share People like compliments
So hand them out freely without over doing it. Leaving a nice
part of yourself like a compliment is a good memory for the
other person to recall - numerous times. Thats good rapport. But
do be sincere! False compliments arent easily disguised.
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