1. Communicate with your babysitter,
nannies or au pair, motherís help to keep up-toĖdate.
Make as much time as possible to talk to your child care
provider. If you can keep the lines of communication open beyond
the rush, you'll have a much better feeling about your child's
development and well being.
2. Don't get wound up by small
If your child only wants to eat burgers every
day, let him eat them. He will outgrow this phase. Providing the
child is not harming itself (getting over-weight etc.) or
someone else by the behaviour just let it go.
flexible and open to new ideas and options
If you have an
early morning meeting and it takes your child an hour to decide
what to wear in the morning, consider letting them sleep in
their clothes. They will think it's fun and you'll be at work on
4. Be honest and up front with your child about
going to work and leaving them with the babysitter, nannies or
au pair, motherís help
Explain that you have to work,
encourage the child to ask questions of the carer. Be
enthusiastic about the carer as your attitude will shape your
child's expectations and experiences. Remember research proves
that children benefit from trusting relationships with more than
one caregiver. The research has shown that babies with more than
one attachment are less distressed when mother leaves for work,
they are more playful and content in the presence of other
adults, and are less distracted at the birth of a sibling.
5. Don't panic or feel guilty when your child cries when you
leave Young children don't understand what "I'll be back later"
means. As your child grows older, she will begin to understand
that you'll return for her at the end of the day. With older
children, reassure them that you'll return. Never sneak away.
You're trying to build your child's trust, not break it down.
Remember that childcare can be great for your child, as your
child will benefit from personal attention, interactions with
other children and age-appropriate educational programs that
will be great preparation for school. Research shows that
children who receive good quality childcare tend to be ahead of
other children both intellectually and developmentally. Research
also shows that children in childcare show the same degree of
attachment to their mothers and the same amount of security as
children with mothers who stay home. Remember if working makes
you happy, you're children will be happier. Working mothers who
like their jobs have better personal adjustments, are happier,
and are less depressed than full-time mothers, even those who
prefer being at home. Depressed mothers naturally have
depressing effects on their children.
6. Accept help
When your relative or neighbour offers to baby-sit the children
or pick them up from school or childcare, let them. They
wouldn't offer if they didn't mean it.
7. Keep duplicates
of "vital stuff"
Extra blankets, nappies, clothes, and
dummies will come in handy in a panic.
8. Get organized
Plan ahead, menus for the week so you can cook extra so there
are leftovers, pack the babyís bag the night before. Generally
working parents are organised. For example, working mothers
spend the same amount of time in direct interaction with their
children as full-time mothers. Employed mothers spend as much
time reading to and playing with their children as those at
home, although they do not spend as much time simply in the same
9. Abandon the idea of the perfect home
Perfectly clean house, nutritionally balanced meals, clean
well-dressed children, and a fantastic career is an impossible
standard that will cause you unnecessary strain. Give yourself a
break and concentrate on what's important. Get in a cleaner,
motherís help to help you with the laundry, house-cleaning, and
household work. It will be money well spent. Fast food and ready
meals are not poisonous.
10. Occasionally pamper
yourself with me time
Consider lighting some candles or
josh sticks, put in some bath oil and grab your favourite
magazine. As most kids hate the bathroom you should be
11. Plan time without the kids.
some chocolates, read the newspaper or a book, go to a movie,
visit a new restaurant, or go to a museum and relieve some
12. Go on a course.
many courses to assist with everything from cookery, through
home economics to child psychology
How To Choose Quality
1. Is the carer trained and/or experienced?
2. Have you spoken in person or got reports on at least one
(preferably two) parents who've used the carer and said good
things about her or him?
3. Does the carer respond to
your child as an individual and communicate well with you? Are
you and your child happy and appreciated?
4. Is she or he
willing to help you continue your child's routine with things
such as sleep, food or any special needs?
5. Is she
willing to fit in with your ideas on discipline, toilet
teaching, sweets and other issues?
6. Does she or he obviously like children and enjoy caring
Copyright Amie Porter
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