A recent study is revealing the hard facts that one needs to
know, in order to unlock the secrets of building a lasting love
relationship. This study revealed that marriage is very
predictable. It also developed a decision-making tool that
anyone can use to choose their true lover (from the open range
of millions of singles), and show you how-to keep her/him
successfully.
This study interviewed over 1,000
experienced adults ranging between the ages of 26 and 80 years
old. Among these interviewed adults were the successfully
married, the unsuccessfully married, the adult singles who had
quit looking for a lover, those who were still trying to find
their mates, and a few who had completely changed their sexual
behaviors to escape the deep pain that hit hard into their soul.
This study revealed all the information that has been missing,
and I will progressively be sharing this incredible wealth of
know-how in the articles on your web page.
Let me tell
you some of what I found. Out of more than 1,000 adults
interviewed, 280 adults had failed in marriage. They had a lot
of stories and experiences, and I will only share a few of the
hard learned lessons they had in common. Note that: the aim of
sharing this information here is to empower you to understand
how they failed, why they failed, and how you can use their
experiences to enable you to make winning decisions to brighten
your future. Please, study these findings:
1. As at the
time of tying the knot, each of those 280 adults believed that
their marriage was going to last forever, but that did not
happen! They all learned this hard lesson; that being good and
wanting to be successfully married is not enough on its own,
because the success of your marriage truly depends on your
husband or your wife. They proved that you cannot sustain a love
relationship single handedly; it takes two to succeed. And
therefore, it is important that you choose a lover who is right
for you, and also finds you right to them; and I will share with
you how to do this in the next articles.
2. They all
rushed to fall in love, and failed to see the red flags which
were right in their faces from the time they started dating.
They confessed that they were emotionally attached, and had
hoped they would be able to change their former fiancée(s)
habits after committing to them. They learned this hard lesson,
that you cannot successfully change another person if that
person is not willing to change on their own. They also learned
that it is not smart to force a mismatch, because it always
leads to domestic violence and a future breakup.
3. They
all regretted not knowing what they should have known in time,
to make the right marital decisions. They were instead consumed
by the excitement of the new relationship, the sweet gifts, the
new places to visit, and planning their wedding, before truly
knowing or evaluating the person they were committing their love
to. They learned that regardless of your feelings, it is vital
to control your love emotions and target your decisions towards
meeting your long term needs.
4. They all confessed that
it was a costly experience; and wished someone had taught them
how to guard their hearts from the wrong person. They learned
that their hearts were truly the most precious possession they
had. But the other sad discovery was that, many of those whose
hearts had been repeatedly bruised, had lost confidence, and
preferred to stay as players because they were afraid of
trusting or loving anyone again.
5. They were all pained
not by the divorce itself, but the fact that their divorce was
preventable, had they learned how-to interpret the advance
warning signs which they had seen during the pre-wedlock period.
They learned that making choices unthinkingly; and then hoping
for the best, is being reckless with life. You have to know what
you are doing every step of the way in choosing the right
spouse. You also have to know how-to keep her/him successfully.
Now, here is the good news. Just like you learned how to drive,
and so you do not drive the wrong way after seeing the
“do-not-enter” signs on the road, you can also learn how-to
choose and keep your true lifetime lover successfully. There is
no excuse for staying ignorant of these best loving skills,
which you need to enable you to make smart decisions in building
a lasting love relationship. It has all been documented, to
protect your heart from future pain; and to show you how-to
avoid these common and painful marital mistakes. You do not need
to learn these lessons the hard way. It’s time to stop cutting
corners, and making wrong assumptions. You can learn how-to
foresee and manage the risks in marriage. All this life-shaping
knowledge is a new value-adding book titled, “10 Steps to
Success in Love and Marriage, Self-help Secrets for the Smart
Lover”.
In the next articles, I will share with you the
best lessons I learned from those who were successfully married,
happily married, beyond just the rings and living under the same
roof. These articles are being written to give you the base
knowledge you need, to enable you to create a successful and
joyful love relationship.
Note: I believe that increased
sharing of these study findings and solutions will reduce the
high divorce numbers, domestic violence, and the endless pain
that results from a bruised heart.
About the Author:
ALEX MUGUME, teaches the best loving skills, and is the author
of the 3 best value-adding books on Relationships. More
information about the author, the books, and the best loving
techniques are available at
http://blog.bestlovingskills.com/
