What is leadership?
It is important to immediate
communicate that YOU are the leader, not let and not let
somebody else communicate that they are leading you! A lot of
guys unfortunately and mistakenly place women on some level that
they can not reach and therefore let the girl have total
leadership and let them be in control of situations.
The
reality is that the girl NEEDS what YOU have. Therefore YOU are
the leader!
The one quality that communicates leadership,
more so than everything else, is slight overconfidence.
Leadership = confidence.
Be overconfident in a charming
and maybe even funny way. Don't be overtly arrogant unless
you're dealing with someone who is being arrogant and
overbearing.
-- Confidence" is a vague term. Confidence
really means --not insecure." In other words, it means not being
submissive and not seeking anyone else's approval, including
women and others. Most people seek women's approval, and even
other men therefore destroying confidence.
Confidence is
seen in an outward way as having a calm, cool, smooth demeanor
with relaxed, spread out body language. This really communicates
confidence and a total lack of insecurity.
Leaders DO NOT
seek anyone's approval! Say this to yourself: --I approve. You
are the one who approves or disapproves of what is going on.
What anyone else thinks is irrelevant because You are the one
who judges. Repeat this often before going out to a bar or club.
Leadership = dominance.
Dominance simply means that YOU
are in control, and others must comply with YOU.
Being
dominant does not mean being domineering. Domineering is a sign
of insecurity oe domineering people are trying to overtly
control others. Dominant people do not overtly control or
manipulate others; they control THEMSELVES and SITUATIONS.
Leadership = control.
Control means control over yourself
and situations in which you find yourself. Others defer to you
and your judgment.
Control does not mean to be
controlling. Like domineering, controlling suggests insecurity.
You should strive to be in control of yourself and situations,
not to outwardly control other people.
Robert Torrey -
About the Author:
Robert Torrey is one of the dating instructors for Attract and
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